The following is a communication exercise. Complete each sentence with a maximum of 5 statements concerning your family member/significant other:
- Often there are problems in a relationship because what is expected of each partner is not clear. Complete the following sentence with a maximum of 5 expectations you have:In our relationship, I expect of/from you . . . .
- Assumptions also prevent effective communications. When we assume something about the other person or assume she/he knows something about us, we base behavior on something which may be incorrect, or in a state of changing.
Complete the following statement with no more than 5 assumptions you have about the other person.
I assume you know . . . . .
- When communications become strained, many topics are avoided. We keep "secrets" for may reasons but they can be very destructive to relationships.
Think of some topics that you avoid talking about, or feelings that are uncomfortable for you to discuss.
These are some topics I hesitate to bring up with you:
- I have difficulty sharing these feelings with you:
- Complete with a maximum of 5 statements:
I feel distant from you when . . . . .
- I feel close to you when . . . . .
- Improving a relationship requires both people making a commitment to work on the improvement. Abstinence does not solve all the problems. Think of some behavioral changes you can make to improve your relationship:
In order to improve our relationship, I am willing . . . .
- Getting recognition for things we value in ourselves is an important part of our relationships. Sometimes we "assume"(see #2) those close to us know what we like about ourselves. Think carefully about your positive traits and share them with your partner.
These are traits I value in myself . . . . . .
- Just as we assume others know about us, we often make the faulty assumption that we don't have to say positive things about them that they already know. Think about what you value in your partner and share these things with him/her. These are the things we need most to hear from each other and yet we often say the least.
These are the traits I value in you . . . . .